FR: Starting to Like Direct
After having a late night on Friday, waking up early Saturday morning, driving to OC, and then driving back up to the Westside from OC late Saturday, I met up with Ulysses, Iconoclast, and jeromevincent at a wine bar in Santa Monica.
A 2 set walks in and I'm immediately attracted to the shorter brunette and Ulysses likes the tall brunette. We're not really doing anything but chatting between all the guys. We're all pretty exhausted from our individual adventures the night before. Being completely exhausted myself I wasn't really on top of my game, but I wanted to make up for a pretty uneventful (for me, not for everyone else) Friday night (on Friday, I opened one set and ended up winging the rest of the night because the girls didn't appeal to me and not to mention, it was Good Friday/Easter weekend and everything was dead).
As a result of being tired, my mind wasn't functioning and I couldn't come up with a good situational opener. The 2 set was seated at a small table up against the wall with no open seats around it and there was a group of 3 guys blocking the path to the 2 set as the 3 guys were talking to another set of 2 girls at the table next to the 2 set I had targeted. This wasn't going to be an easy set.
I decided to break out a direct opener since I was too tired/lazy to think of anything else. I tell Ulysses I'm going to go direct on the shorter one and that he should come in and help me wing since he likes the taller one.
I go to the bar, grab another beer, see an opening to the girls, and walk over...calmly...slowly...confidently.
I arrive at their table and they stop chatting and look at me.
"Hey guys, sorry to interrupt, but (looking at HB Tall) do you mind if I say something to your friend really fast?"
HB Tall: "Sure, go ahead."
D: "I saw you over here and I just had to come over and say that I think you're cute. My name's D."
Introductions all around.
Bunch of fluff talk. Start talking about wine. At this point, I'm trying to eyeball Ulysses to come over and wing since I have NO experience with wine and it's something that he really enjoys, but unfortunately, I don't think he picks up on my signal. I even say, "yeah, my friend would know..."
Obviously, this is not going anywhere. There were many points in the conversation that looking back at it a couple days later, I could have made the conversation a lot more interesting, but alas, my brain wasn't functioning at 100%.
Anyway, convo dies after about 5? 10? minutes and I eject with, "nice meeting you guys."
As I'm walking back, Ulysses is walking over to wing. I intercept him and he asks me what happened. I tell him things just kind of died, my target didn't seem all that interested. Her friend was more open. Tell her about our wine conversation and how I had no idea what to do. Ulysses tells me we should go back over there and for me to introduce him. Good idea.
We walk back over, I reopen them and tell them that this is the friend I was talking about. Introduce them to Ulysses. He does a ton of DHV talking about wine and wine bars. It's awesome. They're totally into it. The convo goes on for a while. I try to do some kino to my original target, but she's across the table, so I only do a few shoulder and arm touches.
Wine convo dies down. Ulysses then says something along the lines of, "you guys are attractive. what type of lines do you guys hear a lot from guys when you go out?" HB Tall then interjects and says, "actually, after D left, we were just talking about that. he came over cool, calm, collected and was non-threatening. it was really good. we liked that."
That made my night. It was good to get that feedback and know that my direct approach went well. If only I had known about wine...or maybe had not been so tired...oh well.
Anyway, further along in the convo, HB Short mentions she has a bf, but HB Tall does not. Oh well for me, but good for Ulysses. It was almost as if HB Short was offering up HB Tall to Ulysses. It was pretty awesome.
Anyway, Ulysses closed them while I went to the bathroom, so all in all, it was a good night.
A 2 set walks in and I'm immediately attracted to the shorter brunette and Ulysses likes the tall brunette. We're not really doing anything but chatting between all the guys. We're all pretty exhausted from our individual adventures the night before. Being completely exhausted myself I wasn't really on top of my game, but I wanted to make up for a pretty uneventful (for me, not for everyone else) Friday night (on Friday, I opened one set and ended up winging the rest of the night because the girls didn't appeal to me and not to mention, it was Good Friday/Easter weekend and everything was dead).
As a result of being tired, my mind wasn't functioning and I couldn't come up with a good situational opener. The 2 set was seated at a small table up against the wall with no open seats around it and there was a group of 3 guys blocking the path to the 2 set as the 3 guys were talking to another set of 2 girls at the table next to the 2 set I had targeted. This wasn't going to be an easy set.
I decided to break out a direct opener since I was too tired/lazy to think of anything else. I tell Ulysses I'm going to go direct on the shorter one and that he should come in and help me wing since he likes the taller one.
I go to the bar, grab another beer, see an opening to the girls, and walk over...calmly...slowly...confidently.
I arrive at their table and they stop chatting and look at me.
"Hey guys, sorry to interrupt, but (looking at HB Tall) do you mind if I say something to your friend really fast?"
HB Tall: "Sure, go ahead."
D: "I saw you over here and I just had to come over and say that I think you're cute. My name's D."
Introductions all around.
Bunch of fluff talk. Start talking about wine. At this point, I'm trying to eyeball Ulysses to come over and wing since I have NO experience with wine and it's something that he really enjoys, but unfortunately, I don't think he picks up on my signal. I even say, "yeah, my friend would know..."
Obviously, this is not going anywhere. There were many points in the conversation that looking back at it a couple days later, I could have made the conversation a lot more interesting, but alas, my brain wasn't functioning at 100%.
Anyway, convo dies after about 5? 10? minutes and I eject with, "nice meeting you guys."
As I'm walking back, Ulysses is walking over to wing. I intercept him and he asks me what happened. I tell him things just kind of died, my target didn't seem all that interested. Her friend was more open. Tell her about our wine conversation and how I had no idea what to do. Ulysses tells me we should go back over there and for me to introduce him. Good idea.
We walk back over, I reopen them and tell them that this is the friend I was talking about. Introduce them to Ulysses. He does a ton of DHV talking about wine and wine bars. It's awesome. They're totally into it. The convo goes on for a while. I try to do some kino to my original target, but she's across the table, so I only do a few shoulder and arm touches.
Wine convo dies down. Ulysses then says something along the lines of, "you guys are attractive. what type of lines do you guys hear a lot from guys when you go out?" HB Tall then interjects and says, "actually, after D left, we were just talking about that. he came over cool, calm, collected and was non-threatening. it was really good. we liked that."
That made my night. It was good to get that feedback and know that my direct approach went well. If only I had known about wine...or maybe had not been so tired...oh well.
Anyway, further along in the convo, HB Short mentions she has a bf, but HB Tall does not. Oh well for me, but good for Ulysses. It was almost as if HB Short was offering up HB Tall to Ulysses. It was pretty awesome.
Anyway, Ulysses closed them while I went to the bathroom, so all in all, it was a good night.
posted by D at 6:42 PM
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